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When Tragedy Strikes
Mark Hicks
February 13, 2025
For years, I’ve been a strong advocate for self-care, believing that we can only truly support others when we take care of ourselves first. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Now, my family and I are facing the difficult reality of putting that wisdom into practice—navigating shock and grief while striving to stay healthy and be there for my nephew.
In moments like these, self-care isn’t just important—it’s essential.
Some Self-Care Practices to Consider
Taking care of yourself is always important, but when life throws something heavy your way—like stress, grief, or caregiving—it becomes absolutely essential. Here are some simple but meaningful ways to prioritize your well-being:
1. Take Care of Your Emotions
Feel Your Feelings – It’s okay to be sad, angry, overwhelmed, or even numb. Let yourself process those emotions instead of bottling them up.
Lean on Others – Whether it’s close friends, family, a therapist, or a support group, talking about what you’re going through can be a huge relief.
Set Boundaries – Give yourself permission to say no when you need to. Protect your energy.
2. Look After Your Body
Get Enough Rest – Sleep is often the first thing to suffer in stressful times, but it’s one of the most important things for your health. Aim for 7-9 hours a night.
Move Your Body – You don’t have to hit the gym—just stretch, take a walk, or do some yoga to release tension and boost your mood.
Eat Well & Stay Hydrated – Stress can mess with your appetite, but fueling your body with nourishing foods and plenty of water helps keep your energy up.
3. Give Your Mind a Break
Take Small Pauses – Even a few minutes of stepping away from stress—whether it’s a walk outside, deep breathing, or listening to music—can help.
Avoid Overload – Break things into manageable steps, and don’t feel like you have to do everything at once.
Try Mindfulness – Whether it’s meditation, journaling, or simply focusing on your breath, a little mindfulness can go a long way.
4. Stay Connected
Reach Out – Even if you don’t feel like talking, keeping in touch with people who care about you can provide comfort.
Ask for Help – Let people support you. Whether it’s bringing a meal, running an errand, or just sitting with you, people want to help.
Find Small Joys – Even in tough times, little moments—like listening to a favorite song, enjoying a cup of coffee, or laughing at a funny movie—can bring comfort.
5. Tap Into What Grounds You
Reflect or Pray – If faith or spirituality is part of your life, lean into it. It can provide strength and peace.
Find Meaning – Writing, talking, or even creative outlets can help you process emotions and find purpose during difficult times.
Get Outside – Fresh air and nature can be incredibly healing, even if it’s just a short walk.
At the end of the day, self-care isn’t about being perfect—it’s about doing what helps you feel a little more balanced and supported. Even small steps can make a big difference. Be kind to yourself.
“Self-care is how you take your power back.” – Lalah Delia
I recently attended a self-care workshop sponsored by the amazing folks at Vibrant Emotional Health. If you are in crisis, these could be the people who can help.
The Crisis Emotional Care Team at Vibrant Emotional Health provides essential behavioral and mental health support during crises, helping individuals navigate emotional challenges and fostering resilience in affected communities. If you would like to learn more about the Crisis Emotional Care Team or get involved, please visit vibrant.org/cect.
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